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Dari Ibnu Abbas r.a berkata: Aku duduk di belakang Nabi SAW. Rasulullah SAW bersabda:“Aku ajarkan kamu beberapa kalimat. Hendaklah kamu jaga Allah SWT nescaya Allah SWT jaga kamu, sekiranya kamu jaga hak Allah SWT nescaya kamu dapati Allah SWT berada di depanmu, sekiranya ingin meminta apa-apa mintalah dengan Allah SWT, sekiranya kamu mahu minta bantuan, mintalah dengan Allah SWT. Dan ketahuilah bahawa sekiranya umat berhimpun untuk memberi manfaat kepadamu dengan sesuatu, nescaya mereka tidak dapat memberi manfaat kepadamu dengan sesuatu melainkan sekadar yang telah dituliskan oleh Allah bagimu. Dan ketahuilah sekiranya berhimpun umat untuk memudharatkanmu dengan sesuatu, nescaya mereka tidak akan dapat memudharatkanmu melainkan sekadar yang telah ditulis oleh Allah atasmu, pena-pena sudah diangkat, buku-buku sudah kering.”(Hadis Riwayat Tarmizi)
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All Parents want their children to be confident. Reassurance is something we are all aware of as a parental tool to build confidence, but there are other techniques you can utilize to help build your children’s confidence level. There are three simple, yet very important things to remember:
#1 Praise.
Praise your children daily on a job well done, or a situation you observe them handling appropriately. Let them know that you approve, and why. When your youngest child colors a nice picture and is eager to show it to you, be sure to praise them. But, also be sure to pick out a singular aspect of the picture to comment on. This tells even the youngest of children that you are interested in what they have accomplished. Praise should go beyond your acknowledgement of the piece of art; it should say to the child that you have paid attention to the details in the picture as well. With this method of praising, and singling out particular reasons a child’s confidence can soar.
#2 Reliability and Consistency.
Children of all ages not only want to know, but need to know that they can depend on their parents or guardians to be consistent. If you have set rules for a specific dinnertime, be consistent. Do not let the teenager (or any member) of your household upset a family routine or set rule due to a preference, such as eating at Joe's house at the last minute, or being late for dinner due to a ball game. While there will always be exceptions to this practice, if you are consistent in any given family situation or rule your children will know they can rely on you. Although this strategy might not be popular in your home at first, your family will eventually accept and expect certain rules. They will learn to respect your decisions through your dependability as well. Through the child’s confidence in you his own confidence grows.
#3 Trust
Trust, as we all know is “earned”. You can and should start building trust between you and your children as early as toddler hood. Nothing builds confidence in humans like trust. Be sure to remain consistent (as mentioned above) when you allow your children to venture forth in new areas. It is not always easy for a parent to feel sure of their children’s abilities, albeit a new bike, or riding that bike to the neighborhood store. Start with small and realistic steps that are agreed upon and carried out. Each success is the essential ingredient to building trust between child and parent.
Remember, a confident child is assured in love and patience. A confident child is a happy child.
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